Core Abandonment Issues

Author and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, works with many clients who have as central to many of their life challenges and need for change core abandonment issues. This is particularly evident in those who have Borderline Personality Disorder. However, many professionals believe that each and every single person has, to one degree or another, experience with core abandonment wounds or issues. What does this mean?

Emotional Competence – Part of Overcoming Codependency

Emotional Competence, specifically, to begin with, learning to observe your feelings without reacting to them, is a central beginning in over-coming, among other things, codependency. Author and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, knows this from her own journey of recovery 15 years ago and from her work with hundreds of clients who have unresolved abandonment issues at the center of what is manifesting as codependency in their lives. Emotional mastery is the challenge when one has unresolved abandonment issues that feul codependent styles of relating. Codependent relating is often very painful and re-plays out unresolved abandonment wounds from one’s past in relationships.

Core of Toxic Relationships – Codependence

Codependence is a mindset that is at the core of toxic relating and toxic, enmeshed, relationships. It is mindest that leads people, often without being aware of it, to try to get their needs met by and/or through others. Neediness permeates what are weak boundaries to begin with. On one side of the toxic, emeshed, codependent relationship is the needy person. On the other is the person who ends up trying to meet the insatiable needs of that person neglecting his or her own needs in the process. Unresolved abandonment issues manifested and expressed in different ways is the major common link between people in this relational dynamic.

What Is Abandonment?

What is abandonment? Are you feeling like you are suffering the emotional and psychological pain of unresolved abandonment issues from your past in the here-and-now? Do you feel stuck? Do you feel like you just can’t find the right partner? Are you lonely? Do you feel less than everyone else? Do you have a sense of something inside that causes you pain – pain that you find ways to distract yourself from? Pain that you may drink or take drugs or feel a need to be highly chaotic and intense relationships to avoid? To one degree or another everyone experiences some feelings or perception of abandonment in childhood. Some, however, are more injured or wounded emotionally and psychologically than others. As a life coach I work with many who are not happy, feeling stuck, have not been able to successfully have a happy and healthy relationship and often don’t understand why. Over-focusing on partners and ex-partners or even still the judgments or values of parents instead of looking within. Does this sound familiar? Would you like to stop hurting? You will benefit from understanding abandonment and its lasting issues.

7 Tips To Help You Identify a Toxic Relationship

Life coach, A.J. Mahari, in her latest audio, How To Identify a Toxic Relationship, gives listeners 7 tips on how to identify a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships are becoming much more common than most people may realize. So common, in fact, toxic relationships are the new normal for way too many people. A new normal that is painful and mentally and physically dangerous to health.

The Co-Dependent’s 12 Steps

A major consequence of unresolved abandonment is codependence. Codependence is very common for many who struggle with issues that they may not recognize stem from unresolved abandonment that see them in unhealthy relationships. Often people with unresolved abandonment issues will encounter a series of dysfunctional, painful, and even toxic relationships. There are obstacles to change that Life Coach A.J. Mahari helps her clients become more aware of and learn to let go of so that they can move forward and end codependent patterns of relating.

Ebooks and Audios By Life Coach A.J. Mahari

Author and Life Coach A.J. Mahari has Ebooks and Audio Programs available on a wide area of topics. Along with Ebooks and Audios and Video that Mahari has avaliable now at Phoenix Rising Publications she has much more coming very soon on the subject of abandonment. Specifically unresolved abandonment. Currently A.J. Mahari has many ebooks and audio programs that will benefit those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder along with Loved Ones of those with BPD and anyone with codependence issues or who is involved or has been involved in a toxic dysfunctional relationship. Abandonment and its relational consequences in Borderline Personality Disorder are much more extreme than those of others not diganosed with any personality disorder or mental illness. However, the difference is really only a matter of degrees. Therefore, most anyone can benefit from Life Coach, A.J. Mahari’s products and services. Please do check back for more ebooks and audios coming soon that deal with abandonment issues that will apply to anyone who is suffering emotionally, feeling stuck, depressed, not able to trust, and/or who has been a pattern of negative, toxic, and/or abusive relationships where someone is emotionally unavailable to you.

The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder

Central to one of the main root causes of Borderline Personality Disorder is abandonment. Abandonment leads to profound pain. Pain that must then be abandoned. This abandonment, and its subsequent abandoned pain is the origin and the teacher of the distorted belief that pain must be escaped at all cost.