Core of Toxic Relationships – Codependence

Codependence is a mindset that is at the core of toxic relating and toxic, enmeshed, relationships. It is mindest that leads people, often without being aware of it, to try to get their needs met by and/or through others. Neediness permeates what are weak boundaries to begin with. On one side of the toxic, emeshed, codependent relationship is the needy person. On the other is the person who ends up trying to meet the insatiable needs of that person neglecting his or her own needs in the process. Unresolved abandonment issues manifested and expressed in different ways is the major common link between people in this relational dynamic.

7 Tips To Help You Identify a Toxic Relationship

Life coach, A.J. Mahari, in her latest audio, How To Identify a Toxic Relationship, gives listeners 7 tips on how to identify a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships are becoming much more common than most people may realize. So common, in fact, toxic relationships are the new normal for way too many people. A new normal that is painful and mentally and physically dangerous to health.

The Legacy of Abandonment In Borderline Personality Disorder

Central to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is abandonment. The unresolved abandonment trauma of what is a central core wound of abandonment. This abandonment wound, according to author and life coach A.J. Mahari, who recovered from BPD 15 years ago, is the legacy that must be understood and examined in order to get on the road to recovery and to recover. Abandonment trauma arrests emotional development. The legacy of this arrested emotional development for those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder means that they are living emotionally and psychologically profoundly painful lives. Lives that involve an unstable sense of self, intense and frequent anger or rage, and a seemingly never-ending fear of abandonment.