The more you live with, in, from, and through unresolved past issues in your life, the more you are and will remain disconnected from who the Self in you really is today – from who you really are. Footsteps of unresolved emotions from the past cast a long shadow that effects people knowing who they really are and negatively impacts relationships.
Life Coach and author, A.J. Mahari, has many coaching clients who are dealing with varying degrees of consequences, in their own individual lives and life situations, that are all related to unresolved abandonment issues. Does everyone who has unresolved abandonment end up being diagnosed with a mental illness?
Emotional Competence, specifically, to begin with, learning to observe your feelings without reacting to them, is a central beginning in over-coming, among other things, codependency. Author and Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, knows this from her own journey of recovery 15 years ago and from her work with hundreds of clients who have unresolved abandonment issues at the center of what is manifesting as codependency in their lives. Emotional mastery is the challenge when one has unresolved abandonment issues that feul codependent styles of relating. Codependent relating is often very painful and re-plays out unresolved abandonment wounds from one’s past in relationships.
Codependence is a mindset that is at the core of toxic relating and toxic, enmeshed, relationships. It is mindest that leads people, often without being aware of it, to try to get their needs met by and/or through others. Neediness permeates what are weak boundaries to begin with. On one side of the toxic, emeshed, codependent relationship is the needy person. On the other is the person who ends up trying to meet the insatiable needs of that person neglecting his or her own needs in the process. Unresolved abandonment issues manifested and expressed in different ways is the major common link between people in this relational dynamic.
Life coach, A.J. Mahari, in her latest audio, How To Identify a Toxic Relationship, gives listeners 7 tips on how to identify a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships are becoming much more common than most people may realize. So common, in fact, toxic relationships are the new normal for way too many people. A new normal that is painful and mentally and physically dangerous to health.
Author and Life Coach A.J. Mahari has Ebooks and Audio Programs available on a wide area of topics. Along with Ebooks and Audios and Video that Mahari has avaliable now at Phoenix Rising Publications she has much more coming very soon on the subject of abandonment. Specifically unresolved abandonment. Currently A.J. Mahari has many ebooks and audio programs that will benefit those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder along with Loved Ones of those with BPD and anyone with codependence issues or who is involved or has been involved in a toxic dysfunctional relationship. Abandonment and its relational consequences in Borderline Personality Disorder are much more extreme than those of others not diganosed with any personality disorder or mental illness. However, the difference is really only a matter of degrees. Therefore, most anyone can benefit from Life Coach, A.J. Mahari’s products and services. Please do check back for more ebooks and audios coming soon that deal with abandonment issues that will apply to anyone who is suffering emotionally, feeling stuck, depressed, not able to trust, and/or who has been a pattern of negative, toxic, and/or abusive relationships where someone is emotionally unavailable to you.