What Is Abandonment?

What is abandonment? Are you feeling like you are suffering the emotional and psychological pain of unresolved abandonment issues from your past in the here-and-now? Do you feel stuck? Do you feel like you just can’t find the right partner? Are you lonely? Do you feel less than everyone else? Do you have a sense of something inside that causes you pain – pain that you find ways to distract yourself from? Pain that you may drink or take drugs or feel a need to be highly chaotic and intense relationships to avoid? To one degree or another everyone experiences some feelings or perception of abandonment in childhood. Some, however, are more injured or wounded emotionally and psychologically than others. As a life coach I work with many who are not happy, feeling stuck, have not been able to successfully have a happy and healthy relationship and often don’t understand why. Over-focusing on partners and ex-partners or even still the judgments or values of parents instead of looking within. Does this sound familiar? Would you like to stop hurting? You will benefit from understanding abandonment and its lasting issues.

Abandonment is at the Heart of Borderline Personality Disorder

The fundamentally foundational epicenter of Borderline Personality Disorder is abandonment. This abandonment experience can be actual or perceived. Abandonment that is perceived is still very real to the person perceiving it. Many people are unaware of the scope and nature of the wide and encompassing spectrum of all that abandonment is. Abandonment can be very […]

7 Tips To Help You Identify a Toxic Relationship

Life coach, A.J. Mahari, in her latest audio, How To Identify a Toxic Relationship, gives listeners 7 tips on how to identify a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships are becoming much more common than most people may realize. So common, in fact, toxic relationships are the new normal for way too many people. A new normal that is painful and mentally and physically dangerous to health.

Authenticity and The Authentic Self

A.J. Mahari, author, life coach and strategist, takes a look at what it truly means, in every day life to be seeking authenticity. Mahari believes that we are all in some aspect of attempting to actualize (or reclaim a lost) authentic self. Authentic self, is of course, the soul seat and heartbeat of any and all authenticity we can manifest in our lives. It is who each one of us truly is when we can break away from all that is the domain of the image of the ego.

The Co-Dependent’s 12 Steps

A major consequence of unresolved abandonment is codependence. Codependence is very common for many who struggle with issues that they may not recognize stem from unresolved abandonment that see them in unhealthy relationships. Often people with unresolved abandonment issues will encounter a series of dysfunctional, painful, and even toxic relationships. There are obstacles to change that Life Coach A.J. Mahari helps her clients become more aware of and learn to let go of so that they can move forward and end codependent patterns of relating.

Ebooks and Audios By Life Coach A.J. Mahari

Author and Life Coach A.J. Mahari has Ebooks and Audio Programs available on a wide area of topics. Along with Ebooks and Audios and Video that Mahari has avaliable now at Phoenix Rising Publications she has much more coming very soon on the subject of abandonment. Specifically unresolved abandonment. Currently A.J. Mahari has many ebooks and audio programs that will benefit those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder along with Loved Ones of those with BPD and anyone with codependence issues or who is involved or has been involved in a toxic dysfunctional relationship. Abandonment and its relational consequences in Borderline Personality Disorder are much more extreme than those of others not diganosed with any personality disorder or mental illness. However, the difference is really only a matter of degrees. Therefore, most anyone can benefit from Life Coach, A.J. Mahari’s products and services. Please do check back for more ebooks and audios coming soon that deal with abandonment issues that will apply to anyone who is suffering emotionally, feeling stuck, depressed, not able to trust, and/or who has been a pattern of negative, toxic, and/or abusive relationships where someone is emotionally unavailable to you.

Your Inner Child is the Key to Your Healing and Recovery

Your inner child is the key to healing and recovery. Unresolved abandonment keeps people separate from this essential part of self. Being separated from the inner child and his or her abandonment issues keeps people stuck in unhealthy, dysfunctional, and/or toxic relationships. It also is a major obstacle to change that people want and need in their lives. Life coach and author, A.J. Mahari helps her clients to identify and become more aware of unresolved abandonment so that they can move forward in the here-and-now to healthier relationships and the fulfillment of their goals and dreams.

The Abandoned Pain of Borderline Personality Disorder

Central to one of the main root causes of Borderline Personality Disorder is abandonment. Abandonment leads to profound pain. Pain that must then be abandoned. This abandonment, and its subsequent abandoned pain is the origin and the teacher of the distorted belief that pain must be escaped at all cost.

The Legacy of Abandonment In Borderline Personality Disorder

Central to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is abandonment. The unresolved abandonment trauma of what is a central core wound of abandonment. This abandonment wound, according to author and life coach A.J. Mahari, who recovered from BPD 15 years ago, is the legacy that must be understood and examined in order to get on the road to recovery and to recover. Abandonment trauma arrests emotional development. The legacy of this arrested emotional development for those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder means that they are living emotionally and psychologically profoundly painful lives. Lives that involve an unstable sense of self, intense and frequent anger or rage, and a seemingly never-ending fear of abandonment.

Abandonment and Borderline Personality Disorder

The unresolved abandonment wound in early childhood and subsequent abandonment trauma experienced and re-experienced by those diagnosed with Borderline Personality (BPD) disorder fuels emotional dyregulation. People with BPD re-experience this abandonment trauma, abandonment fear and depression each and every time they experience an emotional trigger that causes the dissociative experience of re-living unresolved abandonment from the past as if it is re-occuring in the here-and-now. In this audio program A.J. Mahari talks about how and why the core wound of abandonment is at the heart of the cause of Borderline Personality Disorder.

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