Grief – A Process of Gaining Perspective and CopingEmail This Post
Grief is what it is. Grief is a part of life. Grief is a process that unfolds whenever we suffer, experience, or feel loss. Some reasons for grief are obvious – the death of a loved one, loss of a job or relationship, for example. Reasons for grief can be subtle – unfinished emotional baggage (abandonment issues) from childhood interfering with goal identification and achievement in the here and now, for example. Life Coach, A.J. Mahari outlines 7 keys that help the grief process and 7 keys that hinder the process of grieving.
It is a paradox, but what we so ache at the loss of we also long to hold on to in ways that can prolong the pain and suffering of grief. Grief is a process that we must fully engage through radical acceptance from a thoughtful mindfulness that can sustain us through the pain that we need to feel in order to heal.
Grief is the process and expression of the pain of loss and sadness. It is a process that needs to be honored, sooner or later. Everyone does grieve in their own time and in their own ways. It is important to understand that grief, is natural, and necessary when you experience loss of any kind and that even though it may feel like it will last forever, it won’t.
Often when we’ve lost someone we’ve loved, person or pet, grief, as profound and distressing as it can feel, can be clung to at a point to avoid what will feel like an even greater loss. When we are actively grieving for someone or for a pet or a lost relationship the grief, while it hurts, is company. The grief keeps us connected to the person, pet, or relationship (or whatever the loss was) longer. It keeps us feeling close. It hurts, but it reminds us also of happier times, of what we’d hoped for rather than what we have come to have to feel, face, and live with.
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